“Write what should not be forgotten.” - Isabel Allende
Two weeks I shared a new concept with you all that I am calling The Worthiness Wound.
And then I disappeared into a hole of research, analysis and model creation.
I want to share the updates with you, including my conclusions around why women feel unworthy, why other forms of healing won't work around the worthiness wound and why worthiness will never be fully "healed."
The deeper I go into my studies of neurology, cognitive psychology, and trauma work, the more I recognize a certain set of common denominators within almost every single woman I coach or teach.
For now, I am calling this trend the worthiness wound. You can also think of it as the {dark} arts of personal objectification. And it lies at the core of every women’s psyche.
I want to break down five ways in which women silence each other in hopes that we can begin to address them in our own lives and participate in the necessary collective healing. Because if women don't come together, support one another, and lift each other up, we undermine the very goals we seek to achieve. Together, we rise.
Being seen, taking up space, sharing our opinions confidently when we are a minority… these are all necessary skills women need to have if we are to continue to increase our affluence in the world. Here is the best way to navigate the fears of being seen.
Let's talk about what role mindset plays in the self-development world and why it isn't the full picture.
I want to dive into the topic of healing today, and specifically around emotional healing.
During a time of great discourse in our country and in the world, it’s important we recognize and learn how to navigate the inner stuff that may be coming up in order to take greater, more impactful action.
What can we do as just one person against a system? How can we take action while still doing our best to serve our current life? How can we rally for our causes while our family members have extreme opposite views? Should we involve our businesses? What do we say to our children? Will any of it even make a difference? Here are some tips.
Let’s talk about buying stuff. And what it means about confidence. If you have ever found yourself compulsive shopping, this is for you.
I know in the spiritual community there is a lot of emphasis on meditation, as there should be. Meditation is a great tool to cultivate self-awareness and mindfulness. The problem is when we feel this Egoic pressure to meditate... that if we don't we are not spiritual enough.
Let's talk about what it really looks like to be unfuckwithable. It's not what you think.
The hardest thing I had to experience this year, and one of the most divine privileges, was constantly falling into what I call comparitis, the comparing of your life to someone else's.
Social media, unfortunately, makes this all too easy. One click of a button and suddenly you see everyone's highlight reels.
Some call comparitis an upper limiting issue. I call it a pain in the ass.
For when the world feels overwhelming, when the collective pain feels too intense, when you don't know how to feel it all... this is for you.
Let’s talk about that moment when you do something wrong, when you fuck up, and someone calls you out on it.
I know the feeling when you open a message, pick up the phone, read an email… and you realize you did wrong. You messed up. You’re out of integrity.
Your stomach drops. Your chest constricts. Your palms sweat.
Do you often find yourself in states where you don’t know who you are? One moment, totally clarity. The next, despair, fear + complete confusion over what you are doing, what you truly believe, and who you are supposed to be. This is for you.
In a confusion world filled with hate + confusion, how do we speak up in a way that actually creates change? How do we take a stand for our beliefs without creating more grief? Here are some thoughts to support you.
Making empowered decisions is one of the most important traits of a successful individual and leader. But I also get that it’s hard to feel empowered around a decisions when you’ve been burned in the past. Here's what you do.
I don’t believe in budgeting.
Let me tell you why.
One of the things I have seen over and over again is how closely money and food are energetically connected. How we relate to one is usually how we relate to the other.
When we hear of self-responsibility we often think of blaming ourselves for the endless mistakes that we have made. It's a shame-inducing process of making ourselves feel bad for not being the perfect person that we somehow think we need to be all the time.
News flash: that's not self-responsibility.
Experiencing vulnerability hangovers, doubts + fears can play a huge role in our lives. This video breaks down how you can navigate it with grace.
When I started awakening to the possibility that I could create my life and be a woman that was not always in pain and hatred, I had to come to terms with an essential truth
