how to start speaking up

how to start speaking up

I remember like it was just yesterday, being 12 years old, walking home from the bus stop, trying to nonchalantly power walk my way down the street while my three neighbors meandered behind me loudly making fun of what I was wearing and who I was.

I would burst through the door to my house with tears streaming down my face, heart wrenched with shame.

In all those years though, I never spoke up. I never stood up for myself. I just let them bully me, slap me, tease me, and embarrass me in front of friends, adults, strangers.

how to navigate the fear of being vulnerable

how to navigate the fear of being vulnerable

It is undeniable - vulnerability goes hand in hand with being seen.

The vulnerability of telling someone you care deeply for them, opening your big feelings to a stranger, asking for a raise, writing a book, launching a program… it often comes with an overwhelming desire to stop, to close your mouth, to wait a month, or two or three, to never do it again, to go numb, to shut down.

The weight that being vulnerable has can be crushing.

why the hustle is overrated

why the hustle is overrated

Lately I have been playing with navigating the spaces of non-doing. Not hustling. Not goal-setting or goal-doing. Not pushing or forcing, just… flowing.

It's unfamiliar territory. Here's what I am discovering.

showing up consistently doesn't work, here's what does

showing up consistently doesn't work, here's what does

The other week I shared a post on Facebook about showing up consistently. Today, I want to dive more into this concept of what it means to really show up and own your spotlight.

So here is the post that I shared: “I see a lot of self-judgment from women for not being able to "show up consistently" every single day.

the life changing path to internal freedom

the life changing path to internal freedom

A little while ago, I stumbled upon an old journal from high school, and as I flipped through the pages, I found a list I had created titled “5 things I need to change in order for people to like me.” The list included: put more effort into my appearance, appear less passionate and emotional, care less about people’s opinions {oh the irony}, no lunches in the library {said by a true introvert} and item #1: be more reserved.

why you worry about what other people think about you

why you worry about what other people think about you

In the following audio, I explore why we worry so much about what other people think of us and what we can begin to explore and play with in order to start owning our spotlight in a greater capacity. 

what most of our success really comes down to

what most of our success really comes down to

Greetings! I shared this uncomfortable truth on Facebook last week and felt called to share it again, here, in case it may support you on your journey:

Two years ago almost today, I quit my job, drove across the country, moved in with my partner, and went full-time into my business after four years of dancing with the idea.

the problem with positive thinking

the problem with positive thinking

We live in a world where the self-development industry is obsessed with positive thinking. But what if positive thinking was actually the problem, and not the solution?

first step in addressing your unworthiness

first step in addressing your unworthiness

In those moments when the judging thoughts feel the loudest, judging others for their behavior but also judging ourselves for ours, it's easy to collapse into a heap of shame and the sense that we are deeply broken.

In the following video, I want to share a critical tool we can begin to incorporate during those tricky, triggered moments to give us a bit of a lifeline. A little ease and space to center ourselves and recalibrate.

the bullshit of money mindset

the bullshit of money mindset

In this post, I want to highlight the insidious beliefs espoused by the coaching industry around the money mindset, making six figures, and the law of attraction.

the three masks that stem from unworthiness

the three masks that stem from unworthiness

I have been sitting lately with the concept of sovereignty and what it means to feel free and autonomous in our lives, our decisions, and thoughts. 

In the video here I share some key concepts on worthiness as it ties to the lower self, the higher self, and the three masks we tend to wear.

feeling manipulated? this one is for you

feeling manipulated? this one is for you

Today, I want to share a story with you on how I was manipulated. It was devastating, gut wrenching and one of the most painful experiences of my life... and it absolutely revolutionized my understanding of worthiness.
 

why women feel unworthy

why women feel unworthy

Two weeks I shared a new concept with you all that I am calling The Worthiness Wound. 

And then I disappeared into a hole of research, analysis and model creation.

I want to share the updates with you, including my conclusions around why women feel unworthy, why other forms of healing won't work around the worthiness wound and why worthiness will never be fully "healed."

deconstructing the worthiness wound and reasons for women's unworthiness

deconstructing the worthiness wound and reasons for women's unworthiness

The deeper I go into my studies of neurology, cognitive psychology, and trauma work, the more I recognize a certain set of common denominators within almost every single woman I coach or teach.

For now, I am calling this trend the worthiness wound. You can also think of it as the {dark} arts of personal objectification. And it lies at the core of every women’s psyche.

the ways in which we silence other women

the ways in which we silence other women

I want to break down five ways in which women silence each other in hopes that we can begin to address them in our own lives and participate in the necessary collective healing. Because if women don't come together, support one another, and lift each other up, we undermine the very goals we seek to achieve. Together, we rise.

why women have a fear of being seen

why women have a fear of being seen

Being seen, taking up space, sharing our opinions confidently when we are a minority… these are all necessary skills women need to have if we are to continue to increase our affluence in the world. Here is the best way to navigate the fears of being seen.

the meaning of true healing and three steps to guide the journey

the meaning of true healing and three steps to guide the journey

I want to dive into the topic of healing today, and specifically around emotional healing.

During a time of great discourse in our country and in the world, it’s important we recognize and learn how to navigate the inner stuff that may be coming up in order to take greater, more impactful action.

becoming a moral citizen: how to take a stand for what matters

becoming a moral citizen: how to take a stand for what matters

What can we do as just one person against a system? How can we take action while still doing our best to serve our current life? How can we rally for our causes while our family members have extreme opposite views? Should we involve our businesses? What do we say to our children? Will any of it even make a difference? Here are some tips.